How I Found My Purpose
I remember one day I could barely get out of bed. It was like everything was just crushing me, hitting me, getting me down. I had all these problems with the business. I had problems with friends. I had problems with my family and employees. Everything was just getting me down.
I had pissed off customers and suppliers. That kind of stuff can really bring you down. And I remember one morning I just couldn’t get up. I was just sitting there staring at the ceiling. My mind was going a hundred miles an hour. I started thinking:
Why am I doing this? Why am I putting myself through this?
I could just go get a job working for somebody and just sit there on Facebook and earn my $20 an hour or whatever. I could have a normal life. Then I started thinking:
No. That’s not what I want. That’s a sad, average life.
And I started thinking about my ‘why’. I started wondering why was I doing it and what was inside of me – where my main trigger point was. I found out that I wanted to be successful and grow up. And I think that started when I was a little kid growing up.
All I ever heard from my single mum was, ‘no Aaron, we can’t afford that.’
That really resonated inside of me, so when I grew up, I started thinking subconsciously that I never want to hear that ever again. I never want my future family to hear that growing up. I want to be able to do what I want, when I want.
When I was sitting in bed thinking about this, it all started clicking into place. And I started feeling better about myself as I explored these things – finding out what my ‘why’ was. So I grabbed a pen and started writing on the mirror in the bathroom.
I wrote down:
- What I wanted
- Why I wanted it
- How I was going to get it.
Right in front of me was this big picture of my future. And something came from that that pulled me forward. It pulled me out of that dark morning. There are so many things going on in your life that can be up and down.
You can have good days, bad days and sometimes really, really dark days – and I remember that was one of my darkest days. The point I want to make to you guys is to always figure out your ‘why’. Have a huge goal and a reason why you want to accomplish it.
The clearer you can paint that picture, the stronger the pull is. There’s a lot of people that are going through life drifting around. They have these dreams and goals and they’ll say:
- ‘Yeah I’ll do that one day if things are going well’
- ‘I’ll have a crack at that some time’
- ‘Next break I get I’ll start that’
- ‘I’ll try that for a bit and see how it goes.’
Those are loser attitudes. You want to have a clearly defined ‘why’ and have that goal. You want to have a big picture of it. You want it to be clear as day so that thing will pull you through if you’re having a down day. It’ll pick you up and it’ll pull you through. If you’re having a good day, it’ll propel you forward.
If you don’t have a big enough ‘why’, it’s easy for a dark day to hit you and keep you down.
It’s easier to get knocked around by day-to-day things when you don’t have a strong enough ‘why’. I think that’s the reason why I’m able to jump up out of bed every day with a grateful smile on my face. People always look at me and ask where I get all my energy and motivation from.
I’m not pulling it from anywhere. Something is pulling me forward and I can’t stress enough how important that is. Get a pen and paper. Get these things out of your mind. Start to go deep down inside your mind and pull it out.
Work out your ‘why’. Draw that clear picture of your goals in your mind. And crush it.