How to Set Big Goals
One thing that I started to realise from a very young age was when I had goals set in place, people around me actually made me feel uncomfortable for having them.
I started having ambitious goals about owning all this property and running the biggest business in my industry for the state (which is now across the nation).But something funny started happening. When I started bringing these goals up with the people around me, I started noticing that they would make me feel uncomfortable and inadequate
They’d squash these goals with their little subtle jokes and comments that squashed it. From a young age, I started to feel uncomfortable about my need to grow. Then when I got older, I started looking at the individuals around me and I started assessing them all individually.
They all had common factors and clues about their lifestyle. They all:
- Had credit card debt
- Spent a lot of time online
- Spent their time and money shopping
- Ate out all the time
- Had the most expensive gadgets.
They just didn’t share any of my ambitions or lifestyle goals. So I started to look for other people to surround myself with. I went to forums and seminars and met new people that were on the same level as me. Then I started to realise that now I felt weird because my goals weren’t big enough.
Understand that for every group of friends out there that make you feel weird for having a goal, there’s a group of friends out there that’ll make you feel weird for not having a goal.
I started to feel more alive the second I started to surround myself with these people that were:
- Wanting to grow
- Wanting to own property
- Talking about business investments and how to find new opportunities
- Talking about the stock market and FX trading.
I started to stand taller, speak my mind, and I started to feel uncomfortable in a good way that my goals were only here and their goals were way up there.
Too many people out there are playing it safe with mediocre goals. If your goal doesn’t scare the hell outta you, then it’s not a goal. It’s just a simple to-do task that anyone can do. You want to set goals that’re gonna make you feel weird, uncomfortable and scared.
I remember when I took my pen and paper and I wrote down all my goals – how I wanted to be the biggest and the best in the state, how I wanted to open up businesses across different states, how I wanted to speak another language – I was terrified.
I questioned everything, then I snapped out of it and I was like: no this is for me, this is what I want to do, this is where I want to go. I’m not setting impossible goals like how I want to go to Mars next week. I’m setting out clear, huge goals for me to hit. Once I have that goal set up, I can break down week by week, month by month, year by year.
I can start to make baby steps towards it. What I’m asking you to do today is to have a look at all your goals – if you have any – reassess them and aim high. If they don’t scare the hell out of you then they’re not a goal.